1. in the Book Hope for the Separated on page 60 Chapman states that we should not forget the Power of Prayer. So my first personal goal is to pray for C at least once every day. 2. I believe that happyness is a choice so I choose each day to be happy. When bad thoughts start to croud my mind, I will use the "Thought Stopping" techniques from Divorce Remedy on page 205 to redirect my thoughts - remember that "when you think about negative things, you will feel crappy. When you think about more positive things, you feel better. and you CAN CHOOSE what youthink about. 3. Every day I will say something positive about C to someone else. This will help me to not have negitive thoughts about her. 4. Say something to C at every opportunity to boost her ego.
The last one brings up a question.
in my post of 5/23 I mentioned when I gave her a complement on her outfit that she wore to a birthday party and said you really look good in that outfit, it makes you look slimmer. and that later she said that she missed that about me and said "do you know how long it has been since anyone..." then broke up some and did not finish the sentence.
That was an honest complement I gave her and she knew it. It had a good result and thus goal #2, but now my question. If it has been awhile since anyone gave her a compliment like that, doesn't OG give her compliments, or is she still seeing him?
An interesting point, Tuesday when I was cleaning out the rest of my stuff she told me that B (our puppy) was doing better. I asked in what way, and she said that for awhile he was leaving his mark all over the house but that he is not doing that anymore. I said great and she said that she figured out that B did not like her "friend" and that when she would bring OG over B would leave his mark after OG left. She went on to say that she is not bringing him over to the house anymore and that therefore B is not leaving his mark. I asked if she was still seeing him tho and she said she still may go out to dinner some with him but is not bringing him over to her place. I turned around and said to B "Good B, Good B", to which C just laughed.
In reading DR this weekend Michele does say that most affairs only last around 6 months then fizzle out. Could be the beginning of the end of the OG? one can only hope.
