I really did have a great time but was VERY anti social. of course I did not go down to be social but rather to get some time away from my office, my apartment, C and everything else and just rethink my sitch.
BTW - I noticed when I got down to Destin and looked at my cell phone that I had a missed call from C around 10am Friday morning. I must have been between cells. When I got back home I noticed that she had sent me an IM and also called my home phone around the same time.
I got down there around 3:30 Friday afternoon and spend the rest of the day setting on the deck and re-reading a book Hope for the Seperated by Gary Chapman (author of The Five Love Languages - also a very good read. it is only about 130 pages but was hard to read straight through - had to stop often and just think about what you read. I also had a highlighter in hand and really marked up the book. Along with a lot of good encouragement on my sitch, it gave me some pointers on dealing with loneliness, anger and depression of a seperation (in my case a D)
The next morning I got up early and went to the beach and watched the sun come up (since Destin is on the Gulf I was facing South rather than East so the sun came up kinda over my left shoulder but it was still very nice) Then I went back to the condo and fixed some coffee and breakfast and sat on the deck (7th floor and good view of Gulf) and read all three of Randy H's Thread Piecing after Divorce, which I had printed out and takened with me, also with highlighter in hand. Since his last post was in February I doubt he will see this but Randy, if you do see this - Thanks bunches for those threads - It has given me great hope.
Finished reading around mid afternoon and did lunch and rested my eyes. Then after lunch I started re-reading DR, also with highlighter in hand. (of course I had already marked it up some from my first read but I found lots of other points to highlight on my re-read). I got through page 100 by then end of the day.
Next morning, I again got up early and fixed breakfast and coffee and sat on the deck while I read the balance of DR.
Sunday evening I went with the group on a cruise around the bay on a double decker boat with the group I went with. (about 75 people) By the time I got back it was almost 10 and I went to bed.
Next morning I got up early and hit the road for home. 7 hour trip and I am here.
I really feel the trip was very productive and have worked through some personal goals and some relationship goals (will post those later) I also thought through a lot of my sitch and wrote down lots of points, questions, and ideas (will post those later too)
