Ugh - why do some people behave this way?? Sorry to hear that Pax and big hugs to you. Seeing puppy is really important to you I know. And it does also come at a price - and the price is having a ringside seat to see your H behaving like this. I had to laugh at Coly's 'Yoo Hoo!' Suggestion - H, why ARE you cringing behind the door??? I don't have a highly contagious disease you know!

The main thing is always how you feel. He may do his stuff and that's up to him. Frankly, I would aim for grace, shrug and go about your day. Try not to give him too much headspace at all - particularly if he's behaving in that way. I know it isn't easy, but gently persist and it will come more fully with time.

Honestly, what does it take to come to the door and offer a cool but polite Hello and then say - enjoy your time with Pup...

Sheesh...any ways, I think you sound lovely - however he might behave xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus