Help - Setting Boundaries, WW in EA - Thread #4

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I have now started working away from home in the week, Mon-Fri. This is far from ideal, but I needed to pay the bills. Must keep a roof over our heads.

I will see how this develops with anything to do with W. I am trying to minimise contact with her. I FaceTime D every night. That is the worst, being away from the kids.

Things with W had been somewhat settled lately. Physicallybintimate ablut once every week or 2 (twice before I started working away). The first week I was away she was hardly on Skype, but I checked her emails. Turned out to be just ablivers tiff with OM and after his begging and pleading and pledging undying and eternal love, she is back on. She racked up about 4 hours on Friday - so I had a go at her about it when I got home, saying what a waste of time it was when she was claiming to be busy and over worked.

She keeps talking about long term plans still. Paying off the mortgage early, buying a camper van. On Saturday we sat in the garden and talked a bit. To be frank, she did most of the talking. I am less interested in making the effort while she is still in her EA. I told her on Sunday that the reason I wan talkative was this. I said that all the long term plans were meaningless and I had no intention of going along with them while she was involved in any form with another man.

She said get the house sold, so I said I was happy to do so, but last time she chickened out and had me cancel the real estate agents. She tried to deny it was her doing, but then stopped, as she remembered it was her.

We went out on Sunday for a family day out. Later, W is still talking about a camper van, and was quite touchy feely. I genuinely think her mental state is questionable - or she is the queen of duplicity.

Next month is 1 yr since BD. I'm unsure as whether to accelerate my plans or to give it the 6 months I discussed with L. I'm hoping the time away in the week will give me time to think, get some clarity, and hopefully GAL also. See how it goes.

I still have 1 telephone counselling session to go. Need to think about what I want to cover in it.