That major setback WAS around the corner but we have to see how much of a setback it was.
My W is really upset about things at work. (So much that the MC picked up on it and in her IC apparently discussed how trauma bonding is what my W needs to avoid). She also isn't feeling well. So when she gets snappy I call her out on it but then she gets upset and says she is not angry. It went further and she said "this is why I want a divorce" and "I can barely tolerate you".
I think what may have triggered things was that our 7 year wedding anniversary is coming up on August 4th and I asked her how she wanted to approach that day. And she said you keep talking about wanting a new marriage so why would I want to celebrate the day we fought?
A few days prior she had suggested going to Asheville, NC that weekend. So that confused me since she clearly was thinking about doing something.
We need a new blender and we got a relatively expensive one so I suggested we could use that. But that is something I suggested in the past that something we needed for the home which was a relatively big purchase would be what could be applied. So that was dumb on my part.
Later in the car ride to work she said we both said things we didn't mean and that exhaustion and stress played a role but it did reinforce my doubt that she HAS BEEN faking it. And she thanked me for getting her to work.
So like I have been saying... things are going well but it's not a complete "I want to make things work" and comments like the one this morning would in the past have been reasons why I would let it escalate. So I am dismissing those as her true feelings BUT I am also not going to ignore it completely.
