I spent the weekend thinking about things. As a way to help me process, I wrote a few different documents trying to get down to the logic and whether I had proof of the statements I was making.
I also went to a concert by myself last night. It's an artist I've always loved and had never gotten to see. It was outside, so that was nice. But the tickets were so expensive I couldn't find anyone who wanted to go. I'm glad I went.
Incidentally, the artist has a famous song with my name and the lyrics are about a woman with troubles happening in her life. I remember just looking up at the clouds as he was singing a certain line in that song and thinking "I always seem to identify with this song. When do I just get to be happy?!"
I've told my family about the possibility of court. I've already had offers that they'll come. I've been joking that I might hire a male model to accompany me.
Originally Posted By: OwnIt
The thing that is stressing me out is that his claims were all facts. "I contributed this much" "She contributed this much" "She moved out and isn't paying". So, OwnIt, when you say let them burn through trying to prove their points, their points are not going to be difficult to prove. They're all true. The case is a giant exercise of omission of all relevant details.
My logic boils down to "Holy cow this was all his choice and why is he trying to unload the financial consequences onto me when it was all his choice?" So my items are a bit less straightforward but no less true.
I've also got evidence of my continued good faith actions and his efforts to trick me into signing my rights to the property away.
I also called our MC, whom we saw for two sessions, since she knows that this was all his choice (he expressed it in counseling. She tried to calm him down and ask him to not make decisions when he's so angry to no avail). I asked if I needed her to write a memo with what she heard, if she could do that and would feel comfortable doing it. I had to leave a voicemail and I'm waiting to hear back.
This doesn't mean I'm going to counter-file, I'm just trying to organize things in my head enough that I know what I'm working with. I think I'm doing some of my attorney's work for him in the process!
Originally Posted By: Sotto
Initially he wanted us just to agree some kind of simple split and he suggested some figures which (for me) were ludicrously below what a normal settlement was likely to look like. He then got a L himself and became much more reasonable.
Mine got a L and is still unreasonable. I don't think he ever told his L "by the way, I'm the one who wants out and to force a sale", so the entitlement for me to shoulder the risk he has introduced is still there.
