ILYBINILWY - OW - what to do next 3

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H called this morning as if everything is normal. Asked what the kids were doing and asked about what I had been doing over the weekend. Told him about the kids nothing about me. He was about to go and I asked him if he was still planning to tell the kids tonight. He asked me if I wanted him to? I said if you are a million percent certain then yes, he said he is so we debated what he was going to say. He accused me again of telling him what to do when I said he could not say we were simply splitting up as none of this is my choice. I asked when he would see them after tonight and he said he was working at the weekend and had plans the one after. I knew that was coming as it's OW's child free weekend but H told me last week he would have the kids for the first time that weekend, I reminded him and said I had made plans, he asked me what and where!! He then said I don't speak to him about anything I simply said I talk to you about the kids and have emailed you about finances as it's too complicated to discuss over the phone. He says he has nowhere to take the kids and started having a go at me. I ended the call politely.

5 minutes later he calls back and literally launches into a complete tirade about money and he hasn't got any and how do I expect him to live on what he has left. I told him as per the email that is what my solicitor had told me and I was being vindictive I was trying to be fair. He then says why have you seen a solicitor I thought we would do that together, OMG is he actually for real. I explained he needed to get his own solicitor if he wanted to check his rights as mine could not act for both of us. I told him he would need to budget and quite frankly I could not be the one to be having this conversation with he needed to find someone else to speak to. I remained civil throughout and declined to respond to certain things he said. His wages go into my bank account and he said last month he was going to change this to his own which he hasn't because I haven't done it for him no doubt. He has now said that as of next month his wages will go in his own account and he will give me what he can afford. He can't afford to do anything with the kids so doesn't know when he will see them after tonight, pathetic specimen of a father. I couldn't speak to my solicitor today but I have until next month to see where I stand if he carries out his threat.

He does have to pay about 2/3 of his wages whilst we still have the house but he does have a good amount of surplus income left more than a lot of people. I am absolutely furious but also dreading tonight. He'll be back in about an hour. I just want it over with so I know what the kids are going to need from me and him out of the house.