The D process needs to be separated into two pats... emotional and financial. One side should not be consulting with the other.
As far as us being our S's enemies? The onus for that is on them.
When dealing with an MLC, I feel a hard line and distance is what works best.
Quit trying to make any rational conclusions regarding the MLC spouse. Whether they are operating their though process through lower posteriorally inverted brain matter or their nether regions, the thinking is illogical and you will just end up with your head spinning or hurting...
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
