WAS wanting to move across the world - help

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Thanks Tread, that's what I did, but it's so frustrating as she's agreed to give it 5 months and to go to therapy with me. But, she's talking like everything's already done in her mind.

So, I've been reading some of the other threads and I notice a number of comments recommending not allowing her to "have her cake and eat it" . After today, I'll have a few weeks respite and I told her that I wouldn't initiate any contact over that period (she can call in when she wants to speak to the kids).

So, when she's back - we are going to be living in the same house with the kids, how do I make sure that I can apply the above or indeed should I?