For me when the time came to tell my boys I made sure the WW was there also, I would definitely NOT allow him to tell the boys himself as there could be a diluting or distortion of the truth you need to be there.
Again you on your own can be looked on as potentially doing the same to him in his eyes so get him sat down and face the consequences of his actions. I feel it doesn't matter how this pans out your kids will be affected I am seeing more and more anger and ill discipline from S8. This has to be handled correctly with the main focus on the kids and not the A, really hard times for you but stay committed to doing the best for them and continuing to show how great a mum you are.
Take care.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
