Trying to detach from WTF world

[MrCAS]

I don't believe "That which doesn't kill just makes you stronger". I think it makes you bitter. Angry. Disillusioned.

When I look back on all the stuff my XW heaped on our marriage with the PAs and EAs, I have to shake my head at the amount of pain it all caused.

What matters is how we choose to react. I am a firm believer in "as if". I told my XW to do what she was going to do but I was done playing. I told her that it was going to hurt, that I was going to cry, that I was going to grieve, that I was going to get over it, and that I was going to get on with the rest of my life. If she wanted to be a part of that then that was great and if she didn't, that was okay, too.

What I have found is that a lot of WASs do is listen to advice from people that have no vested interest in the situation. These people will tell them to dump their spouses and live this magical life. Funny, at the end of the day, they go home to their spouses, their kids, and live in their homes whilst the WAS is often left out in the cold wondering why they listened to these people to begin with.

I have a feeling my XW is based on what these great people have told me afterwards. Look, I feel sorry her life is what it is and she is shacked up with OM pretending to be happy but that is the path she chose.

I won't tell you my life is exactly what I want. Heck, I rent the guest wing in my sister and B-I-L's house. I freelance work and stay busy. However, I have learned to make the best of what I got and have no illusions. I am in a happy place as far as my mind goes.

Well, I have rambled on long enough...