Thanks athas and Tread for the comments.

Yes, it's rough, we paused the argument about her mother staying with no resolution as yet. Maybe we'll bring it up in couples therapy on Monday.

I really don't want to detach from her as I want things to improve, but am finding myself pulling away too.

Hope the time away helps.

Me: 47 Wife: 39
Together: 20 yrs Married: 16 yrs
S:9, S:7, D:5, D:1
BD: 7/4/2017
Separation (though living in the same house) 7/20/2017
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