As someone who doesn't walk in your shoes but am reading this post, let me say out loud: this is not about you. It's just so sad and tragic for her, for you, for your kids. This is the epitome of you didn't break her so you can't fix her. It seems like abuse plays so prominently in so many of these stories. It breaks my heart.
Also, I hope you get the help you need too as this has clearly shaken you to your core. Remember that this is not about you. She didn't deserve what happened to her. You don't deserve what is happening to you. Question is how do we heal from this and make life better for ourselves and our children?
Gordie
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving