I feel as if, if I lose sight completely of who my H really is/was, I will detach so much that I will let his MLC rewrite my reality too. But if I don't detach, I'm denying the current reality. Gah..
Rewrite your reality? No going to happen... Not on our watch.
Something I learned... The hurt happened. The pain happened. The shock and the awe of all it happened. Pack this all up and put it in a tidy box.
The emotional part of your D is done. Moving forward, this is all about business. It is your job to make the best deal for YOU. This isn't to say to screw him over or be unfair. Your first obligation, at this point, is YOU.
Another piece of advice... Quit trying to understand MLC. Look, I lived one. Looking back, I am amazed (and not in a good way, either...) at some of the things I did and thoughts that I had and felt that they were normal. I quit trying to understand the whys, whats, and therefores... I think you should, too.
I am rooting for you. I believe that you are stronger than you know.
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out” ― Art Linkletter
