I think all of us are trying to help in our own way, b/c we can see your confusion and the struggles you are having. I give very little to the subject of what to do legally, b/c I know very little about it. Based on posts scattered across the board, it seems strange that most LBH's take a major hit from his WW........and it was either your thread or some other LBW's that their lawyer indicated the WH would practically be untouched. Maybe the secret is in being the WAS. smirk. (JK).

It has been my experience to notice how LBS's biggest DB struggles appear to be in balancing a new application. It doesn't help, if they are receiving various avenues of advice. Considering their emotional state, there's no wonder they feel confused. Sometimes, it helps to take a few days away from everyone's opinion. With your finals coming, don't bog down with all of us talking in your ear here.

I want to help you if I see you getting confused or out of balance about your actions, and that's why I wrote what I did in my previous post.

I know you are going do what is best for your little guys......and for you, too. Sometimes you have to take a day at a time, and sometimes, you have to keep the big picture view.

Not at all sure why your dad suggested H going along to the game. I see no purpose for the two of you going together.........not while you are trying to detach and drop the rope. Once divorced, will both sides of the family travel together to the games? Meh, who knows, but right now you are just trying to get to the point you don't care what he does......and you are not there yet. No wonder you get confused!

When all else fails to compute, do what you think if best, T.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!