Got me to thinking C backed off big time with you, right? Looks like I'm now in that same position. I guess we just need to give them time and space to think.
On opposite end of the spectrum, too, is the possibility that when he crashes, he/she will shove to the side what he's/she's done, and run even farther away. That can happen, too, as it is HARD to face things that have been done, and facing ones self is the hardest of all things to do.
I believe that is now my H! As he has run and left ALL of us. Bury himself and hiding himself in a new life. This way he doesn't have to look at us and feel the guilt.
I think maybe I should leave H alone to think. This is his journey not "our" journey! How sad!
have not had any communication w/ C since Sunday evening but just got an email from C this mornig that has me puzzled.
It is a forwarded email of an religious nature titled "What a wnderful way to explain it" that was sent to her by her sister with instructions to forward on to 4 more people. She sent it to her son, her Sis here in town, her bookkeeper friend, --- and to me.
She also added "Have a great day" to the email.
I have not responded to her that I got the email yet -
the email is
Quote: What a wonderful way to explain it > > > > > > A sick man turned to his doctor, as he was > > preparing to leave the examination room and said, > > "Doctor, I am afraid to die. Tell me > > what lies on the other side." > > > > Very quietly, the doctor said, "I don't know." > > > > "You don't know? You, a Christian man, do not > > know what is on the other side?" > > > > The doctor was holding the handle of the door; > > on the other side of which came a sound of scratching > > and whining, and as he opened the door, a dog sprang > > into the room and leaped on him with an eager show > > of gladness. > > > > Turning to the patient, the doctor said, "Did > > you notice my dog? > > He's never been in this room before. He didn't > > know what was inside. > > He knew nothing except that his master was here, > > and when the door opened, he sprang in without fear. I > > know little of what is on the other side of death, but > > I do know one thing...I know my Master is there and > > that is enough." > > > > READ AND RETURN (sorry - cannot break this) > > May today there be peace within you. > > May you trust God that you are > > exactly where you are meant to be. > > > > "I believe that friends are quiet angels who > > lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble > > remembering how to fly. > > > > " Just send this to (4) people. > > > > Do not break this, please
Send her a IM or an e-mail would be better. Tell her, thanks for the e-mail, that it was a cute story.
At least acknowledged that you got it. C is trying to keep a small part of you in her life. Be nice tell her thanks. Your rewards may be great if you do.
I don't know why she sent it to you. Who knows. Only she does. It may mean nothing, it may mean something. Go with the flow. And quit shutting the door, LOL.
Deb - thanks for the reply - I sent an email back saying thanks - enjoyed the email and that I sent it on (did not tell her I posted it here) also asked if I could come by this afternoon to pick up some fire wood for camping tonight w/ nephew.
Quote: And quit shutting the door
I am finding that to be hard to do lately. after thinking what she has done and the hurt, not only do I want to shut the door I want to slam it shut, lock and bolt it then stack all kinds of furniture in front of it.
Quote: I am finding that to be hard to do lately. after thinking what she has done and the hurt, not only do I want to shut the door I want to slam it shut, lock and bolt it then stack all kinds of furniture in front of it.
Me too... but that would be the easy thing, wouldn't it? And the expected response, too. It's not easy to risk being hurt... but that is the only way we can ever be loved again or love again.
Have a great weekend.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
I had a client come in my office with his wife and they said that they had been seperated for 3 years and have gotten back together. So I guess there is hope.
My Goals??? - well, I guess I need to re do my list. Your list kinda prompted me to start thinking along those lines. But lately I have been kinda busy and not had time to post (or even to read the BB) Guess that comes with getting a life and starting to do things. I did reconnect with an old friend that I had not heard from for over 2 years and set up a dinner date with her and her husband. She is a good sounding board and a TRUE friend.
As soon as I redo my goals (one of which is to reread DR, and another of which is to redo my goals) I will post them, but I have to go to Virginia Beach first.
Right now, though, I am getting ready to go take another flying lession (if the weather will let me)
