TBH I am scared to send something in writing asking him not to come to our house except XYZ, I don't want it to hurt me from a legal stand point which is why I really need to get an attorney I trust and get some good legal advice on if it would hurt me to make him leave... He left June 14th and was gone for a week, his things are still gone as if he doesn't live here, yet he sleeps here 6/7 nights a week now. Again, if none of this matters to the courts, then great. I will do just that, but I don't want it to be turned around to hurt me in the long run for custody purposes that *I* kicked him out
He got here at 630p, went and said hi to the boys and didn't say a word to me, neither did I. He showered and ate dinner. S6 and I were watching a movie in my room with the baby while I'm working on homework and he comes in and sits down on the bed with us to say hi to the baby and ask S6 about the movie were watching... I completely ignored him, acted as if he wasn't even sitting there. Then he takes the baby out to the living room and is all happy and talkative. My dad said it's his guilty conscience from coming home after 10-11pm the last 3 nights.
I just want him out of the house, I wish I could just erase him from my life and not have to deal with seeing him being so fake.
I'm sure I'm coming off as royal you know what not even looking at him or acknowledging him especially in front of the kids but I really don't have it in me. Maybe in a couple days I'll be able to be fake nice but not right now.
And yes I am beyond confused on what I should do, I am not doing anything to snap him out of it or get a reaction. I don't want to spend the little money I do have to get a 'reaction' it is going to be spent because it's what's best for the boys and I. We already wasted 10K last BD both for retainers for L so I am not going to waste money again, if I'm going to do it it's going to be to get something done.
So email, no email, file, don't file, I have no clue. Like I said I am apprehensive to send an email telling him not to come here. I don't mind sending an email about a proposed schedule but a large part of me says screw him, don't trust him, don't waste my time trying to play nice with him. That I cannot TRUST anything he's doing so why trust trying to figure out custody. Plus to be honest I don't think I have it in me to sit and have a conversation with him without blowing up with the way I feel right now. Again, I'm sure this will change but it's just how I feel in this moment. He thinks he has life knocked, that he holds all the cards, he comes and goes as he pleases, is a dad when it's good for him, is out with whomever when it's good for him, gets his family time when he wants, it has to stop. I even told him Sunday when we talked and when I said I didn't want him staying here anymore that he made me uncomfortable in my own home, that I don't want to be around him anymore than I have to.
