I don’t know that I agree that he is trying to get me to pursue. He could care less about what I’m doing or even talking to me.
T, I don't think you're understanding what is meant by pursuit. This isn't romantic pursuit. It's more that he wants to trigger you into being angry and telling him he's an %$#%%$ and yada yada yada.
It lessens his guilt if he can get emotional reactions from you. They don't have to be positive emotional reactions; he wants negative ones.
Whether you think he cares what you do or don't do doesn't matter. You've had a major pursuer/distancer dynamic since BD, and it allowed him to confirm his ideas about you and to distance himself further. He would be very uncomfortable with a you that was calm centered and didn't give him anything to work with.
