like a drifter I was born to walk alone

[Cristy]

I guess I am feeling like he must be sitting there saying "this was the right decision, I am happier now than I could be with Ginger" and he might very well be saying that. And I can see why. I simply cannot offer him what she can. (although I have my own place and they both live with their parents, lol).

You're doing a whole lot of ASSuming here, girlfriend. Do you honestly believe your ex-husband ended up happier with OW than he would have been with you? Clearly not. So don't go around assuming all your other ex-boyfriends made the right choices - you never know what's going on behind closed doors. Maybe your ex's are driving their current partners crazy comparing them to you all the time lol.

HAHA, yes, I am doing a whole lot of logical assuming. But it is assumptions. Since I will never know the truth and care not to find out, I really like your explanation and I am going with it. If that fantasy makes me feel better, why not? But I am making an effort to just be mentally done with this. We had our fun, unfortunately good things come to an end, and hopefully something better is in store for me.

She asked me why I even married him.

Ouch!

Your daughter may need some counseling. She's always been unusually insightful, a good therapist may be able to help her maintain healthy boundaries with your ex.

It hurts, I know - I'm dealing now with my adult children and their troubled relationship with their narcissist father.

Their is only one answer to this and it is so
I could have YOU (D9) or KML(adult children)

I love you unconditionally.
This is the answer she is looking for.

Great minds think alike. That's exactly what I told her

Hello Ginger,

It is going to sound like an echo around here. Yes, lots of mind reading/assuming happening.

Best of luck to you on your PT and surgery!

Cristy

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The Divorce Busting Center
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