Did i say i was confused! Leaving for a long weekend with the kids wife has been very involved with final planning and has made it clear she is going with us. She wants to keep making good memories so the bad ones are not at the forfront of her thinking. Still only brings up 4-5 arguements over a 5 year period that seem to be on her mind constantly. She says she has noticed how the kids and i have pulled together to stay active with friends and family. She talks about shuting down well in groups and hopes by making good new memories she will stop feeling empty inside. We haven't spent more then 2 hours together at any one time in the last 5 months now she will be with the family for 3 days. I am very worried about this.. i feel im giving her space but then she comes close for a time and then pulls away upset at who im not sure!
The last sit down conversation we had i thanked her for sticking by me when i was going throuh a rough patch. I let her know i would be there for her if she needed me but i would not be asking her to come home. I let her know the door was open as long as we could keep trust in the marriage.
Well i guess i will try not to overthink it and enjoy the weekend thanks again to Cadet and Anotherstander you have given me lots to reflect on.
