Finding my way in the dark - Part 2

[Holding]

I'm confused. You said she earns "a good deal more than" you.

As a two-employed-person family, you split household chores 50-50, right?

Is the piece I quoted about you doing part of her half of the work? Or is it an indication that that's all you are contributing to the daily work of the household?

Yes, W earns more than me, but we both work 9-5 (well, hers is more like 9-9). She is very ambitious at work and has always prioritized that over her family. She's worked her way up at the company.

Actually, I have typically ended up doing most of the household chores. W cleans, dusts, and vacuums (occasionally). I wash most of the clothes. I prepare and serve dinner (although sometimes it's something she's cooked in advance). I pick up clutter around the house or get S's to do it. She does the dishes maybe 5 times a month. Our S's help out with some chores (dishes and trash). I cut the grass. W usually goes to the grocery, but I was also doing that too since she was slacking.

Lately I've been letting dishes pile up and doing them less. I've been letting towels go until the very last minute (when I need them). I'm obviously still going to feed my boys.

I've always told myself I was the glue that held the family together.