I know this might sound confusing but I don't think anybody on here wants you to stop all communication with your WS. What you need to do is be smart about it, I assume you've answered the question whether you want your M anymore? If you want to fight for your M then communication MUST happen BUT as I say it has to be smart.
DON'T PURSUE EVER, he has to come to you to talk and when he does YOU need to make it as though you’ve moved on and are only interested in conversations that revolve around either business related matters (bills, mortgage etc.) your children and the logistics that you need for GAL’ing and visitations and of course reconciliation DON’T EVER PUSH THIS THOUGH.
When he initiates the conversation I would basically show him a person who is happy where she is in life, willing to listen and validate and just be a friend to him and of course his safe place. I say this only if you want to save the M as you are now having to show him your best you, someone who he must have been crazy to leave.
If he starts to move the conversation onto his relationship with the AP/LO or a subject you know will escalate into who can shout the loudest then I suggest you tell him to leave, normally these sorts of conversations creep up on us so I suggest you research “charging neutral” also.
Please SJ detach as much as you can, stick up for yourself and work on being the best you, you can be. Look after the kids and stay strong.
Mark.
DR'ing started March 2017
Don't blow the last bridge up from fantasy island, act "as if".
