I don't want the kids to know about OW yet as I feel it is too much for them to deal with in one hit. I have made it clear to him that he needs to tell them that this is his decision and not ours. It is not going to be an easy conversation for lots of reasons but it needs to happen in order for me to detach from him.
I am also definitely going to stop talking to him as you say.
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Me 46 H 39 M 11 T 14 S 10 DO 8 ILYBNILWY 11.06.17 Separate rooms 11.06.17 ILW OW A ongoing 12.06.17 Kicked H out 23.6.17 H came home 20.8.17