Clay, really sorry you're going through that. It sounds like your XW is still lost in the fog. She's fighting for more of your money so she can fund her free-wheeling lifestyle chock full of vacations and selfishness. That sounds really frustrating!
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As far as the kids go, my son still won't talk to me and my daughter seems to think my only purpose in life is to shell out money. My kids have no respect for me or for the sacrifices I have made. They used to adore me.
Very sorry you're going through this, it's hard enough to lose your W but when the kids are like this it just makes things that much more difficult. Maybe with time they'll come around. I went through some tough times with my younger D after BD. I think she jumped on W's let's-blame-him-for-all-of-this bandwagon. But what works for a WAS sometimes works for older kids too- I gave her time and space. I showed her the best me that I could be when I was around her, and pulled back when I wasn't around her. On my last birthday she gave me a birthday card with a very touching, loving, hand-written note in it. Our relationship is stronger now than it was before BD. So hang in there!
