FWIW, once I realized that Mr. Fantastic is a liar, I had to act on the fact that he is a liar. For me that meant I got a job and put every single penny I had towards the lawyer, while praying every day that Mr. Fantastic didn't empty the bank account. I didn't take money out of the account myself because I didn't want to start cr@p like that before I had the settlement. But I bit my nails and checked the accounts every day.
EVERY PENNY I spent on that lawyer was worth it. He went to Mr. Fantastic's place of work and got a copy of his employment contract personally, which made an impression on Mr. F's boss. I had to sell the house so I made sure Mr. F had to pay the realtor commission, on the grounds that we closed on the house after he started the affair and I wasn't going to suffer the financial consequences of his stupidity. My lawyer was aggressive and I know it worked because Mr. Fantastic called me to tell me what an idiot I was for hiring a shark and that we ought to be sorting things out on our own. No, Mr. F, YOU ARE A LIAR and NOT TO BE TRUSTED.
He got mad at me but I have a GREAT settlement that will take care of my family until my kids graduate from high school and I have enough money to get a good start on a nest egg of my own. The very first payment post-settlement Mr. F sent the child support check late, I gave him hell till it came in, and the payments have been like clockwork since.
BE MIGHTY, T, and don't take sh!t anymore. Kick his sorry a$$ like he deserves and don't fear him. These liars are cowards and vampires who can't stand the light of day. Get a good aggressive lawyer who is ON YOUR SIDE -- a pit bull is OK if you trust that they have your best interests at heart (meaning, they talk about how to be aggressive on your behalf while keeping the bills reasonable).
Good luck, and good job finally getting mad at him. Looks like your heart is starting to listen to your head.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
