H is giving 2 L's the money he could have given THIS L, the one who had his kids...
and I think if I had hired more aggressive lawyer(s), at the start, I might be done with all this and have money in my pocket, and I'd be moving forward in my life without the $word of Damocles over my head and hindering me...
sometimes I think if we had mediated, I'd regret it b/c in my state, mediation only works when the payor isn't a jerk. My h is a jerk, evidently.
He's risking a lot of money and 4 relationships that once meant a lot to him, to save a year or 2 of spousal support. It's irrational.
But my thought is that spending more money up front, will lead to more money for my future (and my kids b/c I now doubt h will even leave them a cent. )
if they were little kids, I would not take a chance on this.
I know others do not agree - and they might be right!!
I'm in the trenches at the moment, so you should take what I say with a grain of salt.
But I'd be remiss if I didn't pass on whatever the he11 I am learning.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
