ILYBINILWY - OW - what to do next 3

[Treasur]

I agree about getting tougher on what you won't talk about and clarity re the kids. Also I think to be clear with the kids that this is Dad's decision not yours without going into details. I suppose I think there is a 'trickle truth' issue here...is it easier for the kids to know their Dad has OW now or easier if they find out later? What are the chances of them finding out accidentally or from other kids? You know your kids best.

Agree about validating his feelings but not behaviour...he seems to have a 'Game of Thrones' mentality really when he sort of 'forgets' he has fired you from being his wife and part of his support team...nope, you and the kids are your own team now. His choice, his consequences. The OW's H stuff...or the OW...do not discuss it and if her H contacts you, refuse to discuss it too. Your H is creating WTF drama in his own life - part of MLC fun I think - but it isn't your WTF.

Well done on the sink too! And the painting...think of it as a downpayment on the next home you and your kids will have and be calm and happy in...maybe with H, maybe not. I think you're doing fantastically well and adapting really quickly to an awful situation. You probably don't feel that way, but you are and you should be proud of yourself.