Point taken. This is actually the first time of me trying to drop the rope. My 180 was trying not to tell at the obvious b.s. my W was pulling. But apparently me being nice was taken for weakness. Something I believed in heavily before learning about 180s and reading DR. Also I was GAL without W, especially considering she would never participate in the things I do. But we did go out and do things together as a family. Especially things that we have been known to attend for years.
That to me has to be the hardest thing, because we look forward to attending these things as a family. Your right about my W cheating not steaming fee rom neglect. My MIL has a habit of sleeping around and messing with other people H. And her mother and other female family members do the same. They have serious generational curse in that family. And my W had been the exception until recently.
At this point, I'm wondering how tobtruly command respect. I have some ideas. One being is to get this home more organized. So I want to come up with a cleaning schedule as well as set aside time to handle the finances. Also I want tobsee the people in my household spend more time reading a book rather than looking at a screen. So I wonder if that would be a start or do I just sound like I'm reaching?
