ILYBINILWY - OW - what to do next 3

[Rose888]

I notice that you often seem to be validating his behavior, instead of his feelings.

It's not OK if he's late picking up the kids, or doesn't come when he's said he would. He's behaving abysmally.

Even if a written custody requirement isn't legally required, I think you would benefit from having one. It will force him to explicitly state how often he plans to see the kids and when. And be specific. Not two weekends a month, for example, but the first and third weekends fro Friday at 6 to Sunday at 5, or whatever.