Don't think you're overthinking it and good to see you've got a good summary of events recorded for reference -even if just here on the forum.
IMHO, your W's L sounds inept but you also have to remember who's steering/driving many of the L's actions, an MLCer!
I have encountered numerous L & court docs over the last year and the supporting info & statements given by W is almost farcical. My W raised a court order because I wouldn't leave the house when she demanded it. It had a supporting 26 point witness statement that hardly had anything factual in it at all. Events described within this document merged into one another, were exaggerated, timelines were skewed, there were incorrect or missing dates and at least two points contradicted each other. Of course, no mention of her inappropriate relationship. I still to this day can't believe someone at the court didn't read this through and say to her 'Do you really want to submit this?'
I believe you are handling the D/legal situation well and your L seems to be on top of their game.
Me 50, ExW 49 T21, M13+ S15, S13 BD #1: 25-Jan-2016 (EA confirmed & ILYBINILWY) Sept-2016 Mediated Sep. starts Oct-2016 W petitions for D Jan-2017 R w OM admitted/confirmed Jun-2018 D'd