Doodler, did your bad @ss personality make it more difficult for the D process? Did W try to use that against you?
holding,
My attitude was very helpful during the divorce. I was confident and I couldn't intimidated by anyone (except Cadet). For me, the separation and divorce was mostly pleasant and serene. There wasn't much spew from my wife, the OM stayed away from my sons (I was concerned about sexual abuse), and I had a very favorable divorce settlement.
My attitude was very helpful during mediation. I got exactly what I wanted because I was willing to go to court to get it if I needed to, and my wife knew I was resolute so she folded.
After the divorce, I took my sons for counseling and the counselor talked with us before talking to the boys. My XW said the separation and divorce was awful and highly contentious. I was completely surprised to hear that. I guess perspective makes a big difference.
