Mark, that's a great list! Have you read No More Mister Nice Guy? I ask because "nice guys" aren't totally submissive, they can be quite controlling and manipulative in subversive and damaging ways. I read the book years ago and am about 1/3 through reading it again. The above rules/ guidelines are great, but NG's need to reverse damaging behavior as well. We -can- be assertive and confident without being overbearing and manipulative.
