Here again part 10

[25yearsmlc]

I hear you guys ... do you not think to him it looks like I'm letting go??


well, not internally at least. Based on questions about whether he'll come back and how you cannot believe he'd do this again, where's the hope? How do I react to him or what to say if he says 'hello', "what if he does not text/come home/calls OW in the house/texts/rides his bike/lies about X", etc etc.


I don't call or text. If he texts about kids I respond. He got packages delivered I didnt bother sending him a text they were here. He comes in the house doesn't acknowledge me only asks a question about the baby I answer and say nothing more. No goodnight etc. I don't ask about his day where he is who he's with why he's coming in here at 10pm etc etc. that's a big change from what it had been.

This is all good^^^^. Just Make sure you keep at it, please

I know I still have A lot To do and my words here and my feelings I know I haven't dropped the rope but posting here saves me from doing things IRL...

understood


Short of making a schedule and getting the ball rolling on legal aspects in regard to H I don't think there's much more behavior I can change from an outside perspective. Now it's what's in my head I really have to work on.

yes it is. You will get there. FWIW, I also truly believe that "where the head goes, the heart will follow"

let that happen.

You will be alright down the road. I don't know how long that road is but I do think you can control more of this than you realize.

Hang in there!