OwnIt - You are not a problem. You have a problem that you are working very hard to deal with.
For all of us, our hopes and dreams of an intact family seem to evaporate before our very eyes. I know I share that feeling. It rocks me to my core. I strongly believe that family is one of the most important thing in our lives. Keeping it healthy and intact, should be a priority. For me, I strongly believe it is best for the children to have two parents in one home (absent abuse). I also believe that working on what you have is often the best course of action because you carry with you all your problems into your next relationship.
I believe in my vows and the promise that I made.
I am coming to realize that some of my disappointment in all of this also lies with myself. I am disappointed that I chose my H as a mate (but then again I wouldn't have S, so I carry a lot of mixed feelings around this one). I am disappointed that I didn't do the work to resolve my childhood issues sooner. I am disappointed in how I handled conflict in the marriage - I really wish I handled things better.
Part of letting the marriage go may mean resolving our disappointments with ourselves?
