Finding my way in the dark - Part 2

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Thanks for the response, Sandi! All the "Good jobs" and "You're doing greats" really mean a lot at this point.

How many times have you left her alone to go out without the kids? Humm? When she sees you leaving with the boys, she sees it as "safe". To see you leave without the boys would be seen as mysterious. See what I mean?

Come to think of it, I think this is the first time I've gone off without the boys, and REFUSED TO TELL HER WHERE I WAS GOING OR HAD BEEN (it felt awkward but empowering, btw). I know I need to do more of this, but it's been hard. I've gone off without the boys other times, but I would tell her I was going to X place if she asked.

Email or call Christy and get that letter from Michele. Then you can decide how you want to handle it.

I did email her - waiting to hear back. Hey Cristy, you there?

Okay, I get it. But the more you protest about a D, the more she's going to push for it.

You know, I didn't realize bringing up how we could get the trust back was really a form of protesting about the D, but I see it now. I just wanted to make clear to her that this is not an irreversible course of action.

Have you considered giving her just a glimpse of how your relationship will be after D? I know as long as you live under the same roof that she won't get the full picture, however, you could do a few things differently. Once the kids are told, there will be no need for pretenses.

I think I've been giving her that glimpse in my communication with her. No more friendly texts or chatting. Just business. What other ways can I give her that glimpse?