Your xh is about the dumbest man I have ever read about. Crying poor mouth and yet, purchasing a car on a credit card, which the records can be requested by the court at any time. As for the OW, I don't know who she sees about her back issues, but surely there is a surgeon that can take care of her back problems for her. Evidently her surgeon isn't a good one or she's not following the surgeon's orders or something else is going on that isn't being told. Seven back surgeries is a lot of work in 4 years.
Yep, the judge saw through them and I'm glad he gave you the option of what to do. One of these days, the judge is going to get tired of him and the OW tying up precious time and start charging them even more for court appearances.
Hard to believe what the MLCer thinks They are so delusional unfortunately
Yours like mine traded in a nice family, financial success and a comfortable lifestyle for a crazy, controlling woman Hard to understand what a man would M a woman who has surgery after surgery , in constant pain and most likely drug addicted to the meds
not a happy lifestyle to say the least this is how I know MLC is real because many of the WAS seem to follow the path and usually choose disaster over stability Glad the judge could see that but them again the judge probably sees this kind of stuff all day long-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
It's my understanding that obligations you take on after your divorce - like a new invalid wife - are not a reason to reduce child support, and I would think the same should apply to alimony.
Also - I'm hard pressed to think of a disease process in which one would require SEVEN back surgeries. If she has chronic back pain after 6 surgeries, it is VERY unlikely that a seventh is going to fix anything, unless it's to insert a pump for pain medications. I'd be quite curious as to whether there is any PROOF she's had all these surgeries?
(BTW - don't get me wrong, "failed back syndrome" is a horrible thing - but unlikely to be fixed by yet another surgery at this point. And I find it had to imagine a reputable surgeon being willing to operate on her back a seventh time.)
I think she's already had the surgery to insert the pump. Not sure. Just know what the kids tell me. I personally think she's looking for a reason to stay disabled so she doesn't have to get a job because she "cant work". I'm sure there is something she can do. She just chooses not to do it. But she has no problem riding a snowmobile or climbing into the kids tree fort or going down a zip line.
So they are both sad sacks. Pathetic and ridiculous.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Uncortunfey I don't have proof. I wish like heck that I did. All I know is what the kids tell me. I joked around with S if he saw her doing that to get a picture of it. I wouldn't want to put him in that situation anyway. I guess XH and OW took a anniversary snowmobile trip back in January and OW told her kids not to tell their dad that she was going snowmobiling.
I have a feeling someone has already been a whistleblower. She has fought for almost a year and a half to get disability with no success. Hence why I think she is continuously having these surgeries. Not as a medical necessity but as a means to an end.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Hello again. It helps me ground myself once in a while with this forum when I start to get dragged into the crazy. Whether it's by X's hand or my own.
Kids tell me that their dad is blaming me once again for his lack of money. He tells the kids I haven't paid him my half of S's phone bill in months, along with several other things. Forgive me for being defensive, but H decided on his own to take on S's insurance payment as well as the phone payment as well as buying him a car as well as paying for all of D's soccer. So I offered to pay for it and X said no. Now he has the nerve to say I refuse to pay him? And X has always had this policy he never wanted us to have to exchange cash. I was p*ssed to day the least.
So I told S and D I was gonna call their dad and straighten out the mess right that moment. They begged me not to. They said everytime I confront their dad he yells at them and has a family meeting about what and what not to say to me. Ridiculous.
It's pathetic how I still consume this much of his time and energy. I would just love to tell him off. But there is really no point. My poor kids have to deal with this idiot the rest of their lives.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
You know he's nuts and he's a whiner that loves to whine and cry "poor me". So, here's what I would do....I would do nothing. Tell your kids the truth and let it go. Why? Because no matter what you say or do, he's still going to whine about something you have or have not done. Remember, they not only love positive attention, but negative too. The more you ignore him, the better and that doesn't feed him the ego kibbles he needs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
WH - he needs your negative attention to further fuel his justifications for his continued bad behavior. Take yourself out of the triangle.
Let the children manage their relationship with their father (and vice versa). You manage your relationship with him separate and apart from the children.
Once you take yourself out of it he will have to deal with the real issues. And then everyone will be able to see what is really happening.
