What I'm certain that he doesn't want is for you to file for child support, because it's a dose of reality and may inhibit his ability to buy a home. Really think about that .... Yes. Please really think about that.
He can wake up and smell the diapers LATER. LOL! YES!
These folks are on the money, T. (No pun intended.) And here's the thing: whether your H is going to start questioning his choices and reconsider his decisions or you are going to begin naturally moving on and feeling better, the way you will get there is *EXACTLY THE SAME*. You can stay where you are and twist and spin. But if that's what you decide to do, then your H isn't going to budge ... he's likely just going to get worse ... and you will continue holding yourself and your happiness hostage.
Your H is not paying any consequences for his poor choices. You are already paying the most painful consequences for his choices. You're learning to live with that pain, and it isn't as bad as it used to be. The only real card H has left is the financial one. YOU are holding all the cards after that, T.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
