Must've little confused about what you mentioned. I understand that W unafraid to give the MR another try. So are you implying that OM is a plan B that she is keeping around. An issue in a MR was that W felt O wasn't give her enough attention. Which is difficult because the rules say that I should give W space. This contradicts the 180 I need to do in giving W more attention. So I only have so much attention, since Db'ing. And backed off when I felt she didn't want me around.
When I decided to detach, she heavily started to pursue OM for that attention. So my question is did detaching make things worse in my sitch? Do I guve her that attention, while semi-detaching?
