WAS wanting to move across the world - help

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I am trying not to talk about the relationship, she has made it very clear to me that we are done (though still going to couples therapy). But she keeps going there non-stop and I try to pull back, but then she gets hurt.

We do however have an awful lot of logistical issues to discuss and have to discuss.

Also, this morning, we had to check something on the kids' passports (which she has hidden from me to date) - after checking she said I could take them to put them away (I always used to hold onto them) - then she said no and took them away again saying that she's scared of me because other people told her to be careful and frightened her with this.

I then had a conversation with her and told her that I am reconsidering a number of the things we have talked about. She didn't take it well.

I also would love for the kids to know that this isn't a mutual decision, but not sure what's right.