the advice you are getting is consistent, from different sources and ages.
Get the money and if that means filing now, which I think it does, then file.
He can wake up and smell the diapers LATER.
Now it's survival mode and he's NOT your life line. He has a plan, which Cadence points out well. So now you need one.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016