I get what your saying, but W claims she is determined to leave the MR. And if that's the case, then I ain't chasing after a woman who is chasing after someone else's H. Now I was all for patience. Especially considering that OM lives in a different state. But it seemed that I was doing all this work. And yet this guy was being referred to as Mr. So Amazing and getting poetry written and sent to him. For doing nothing, but cheating on his W by screwing mine. There is no real coversation between my W and OM. But yet my W is willing to risk it all just to be the OW.
Then you hear about how the WW doesn't respect you for being soft on these boards. And the there are talks of cake eating, which my W was definitely taking advantage of. Don't get me wrong, if W repented today, I would take her back with cwrtai conditions. But just when it seemed like W would be going in the direction of staying in the MR, suddenly her attitude towards me would change. And that's how I would know her and OM were back in comm unication. When he gone, I have a shot. But when he's around, it's as if nothing I do matters.
Her subconscious mind might be trying to keep her in the MR. But it's hard to be loving whem you are being replaced by someone who you shouldn't even be competing with, because he doesn't match what you do. So being the nice guy hasn't won me any points.
Like you mmentioned, W being nice is a good thing. It's not about me getting hurt, but when OM is the picture the level of trust in my W goes down. Because ahe make choices that she normally wouldn't. And that's not just the choice to cheat.
