WAS wanting to move across the world - help

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Guys, need some advice, I'm making alot of mistakes in the last day!

Telling the kids, their subsequent reaction and her complete lack of one has set me off kilter and I've been slipping alot!

I got angry and upset last night with her. When we went to bed, I apologized and told her that it was none of my business what she did with her text messaging, etc - just that it had been a very emotional evening.

Early in the morning our 5 and 7 years olds each came in to the room and begged us not to separate. It was so painful to hear and she just shows nothing!
So, I said to her "are you sure we can look them in the eyes and tell them that we have tried everything to fix this?" OUCH! What a mistake - I knew it as I was saying it. She, of course, looked calmly at me and told me that there was nothing to fix as it was over.

Could really use some advice and support how to get back on track and over those bad backslide.
Thanks all,