WAS wanting to move across the world - help

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So - we went to therapy today with a really nice solutions focused therapist. My wife shouted in the session "I want a divorce!".

Therapist was great. Calmed everything down and asked us to do homework before the next session.

She even suggested that my wife go back and leave the kids with me and that I bring them over in a few weeks. Idea didn't get immediately discounted.

But, it does all base on the premise that they go back there, while I have to stay here for work until I can move jobs.

Then tonight, she decided that we have to tell the kids that we are separating and that they are moving country. We told the 3 older ones (9,7,5). They freaked and cried and begged us to stay together and to work it out. I was heart broken and my wife stayed completely calm, no reactions.

Afterwards, I said to her that I never expected the kids' reaction to be that extreme - she replied "Oh, I did".

Another 2 things that really annoyed me too.
1) I had asked her to have her mother (who she brought over with her and is in the house all day) please go out for this so that we can do this as a family. Of course, she was around and then after the conversation went round consoling kids! I asked my wife to get her out and my wife told me that she had asked her to go and speak to the kids!!!

2) My wife has an army of people that she texts non-stop from morning till night. I know it's her right and none of my business, but tonight it pissed me off as I felt my life was being broadcast live (though I guess I'm kind of doing the same thing here now).

Not sure what's next. It's clear they're going back and it's clear that I'm not going to object or lawyer up.

Just in pain tonight!