The laws suck and me pissing him off will cut the finances and he can still come Here.
Basically L said- he can stop paying and not pay child support and still come to the home and see the kids. I cannot force him to leave even IF he doesn't financially contribute. I cannot stop him from seeing thekids even if they are not fed or clothed because he won't give money he can still see them.
So if he stops paying I have to file an emergency hearing for emergency support. Emergency is a joke of a word because it takes a minimum of 90-120 days to get in front of anyone and even then t may have to go to a judge to get any type of financial order. So I risk 4 months of NO support at all. AND. He can still come here. I can change the locks but he can change them too. She said it goes both ways.
It's why I feel so STUCK. Florida is no fault. I have told him as I did last night we don't need him here. He moved out June 15 to his boss. Took his bags and went. Then started coming around twice a week to stay the night and help with the baby because of my school and I told him he needed to be in charge those two nights. Well it's now turned into being here 95% of the nights (I didn't ask) and him sitting on the couch and not offering to help. He just strolled in at 10 pm... he text me asking if I needed anything or wanted him to grab me dairy free dinner. I replied no but that he needed to get dog food. He comes in and tries to say goodnight to the boys and I told him he needed to take the baby who was crying. I told him not to come here to stay the night so if he's not going to listen then he can take the baby so I can go to sleep.
I originally didn't say anything about him coming here every night after he first left because I thought ok maybe he's making an effort toward the M and I didn't want to push him away but after last week he told me nothing has changed I realized that's not the case. So I don't know what he's doing here and why he doesn't stay at the boss house like he was. He doesn't leave even a tooth brush here or even do laundry. He brings a back pack and keeps everything in there and leaves nothing here.
I'm tired and rambling I hope what I said makes sense.
I feel damned if I do damned if I don't. I don't really mind him being here as much when he comes home at 10 because I don't have to interact with him. But it also is like this isn't a hotel and I believe he's coming here to put on this show that he's 'doing the right thing' not walking out on us that he's just done with the M but is being a father and painting the picture of how great he is to whomever he's involved himself with.
