T, I'm confused about the living arrangements. He moved out, right? To the NEW boss' house? And he's wahwahwahing to you about getting his own place?
I mean, tell him not to show up at the house. Literally SAY: "I don't WANT you here. We don't NEED you here."
You haven't tried to be that blunt yet, have you?
I was thinking you said you're afraid of being bold because he will yank finances. So which one is it? You don't want to stir the pot and pi$s him off? Or the laws are crappy there? Because those are two wildly different things.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014