I only post this for others benefit, it's pretty personal to me:
I text'd my step son:
Me: I want you to know that I asked your mom for a divorce. I'm waiting for her response, but I want you to know from me that it's what I want now. You'll be 18 very soon, so it will not have much, if any, affect on our relationship.
Son: after everything I'm glad that we have the chance to move onto something better
Me: it's better for me, and I will always be there for you. I don't know if it's better for you, but it doesn't change my heart for you
Son: keeping up the marriage legally didn't do anything for me, and yeah, things won't change between us.
Me: I love you kid.. Have no doubt, you are the most important thing in the world to me, and my greatest pride
Son: thanks, I Love You
Then I text my mom:
Me: I just wanted to let you know that I've asked WW for a divorce, an amicable divorce that only requires we both agree that it is irreconcilable.
Mom: so glad, I think it will help with the healing process, let me know if you need help with the financial aspect.
"Your son" had a good time this weekend, going to the movies with your brother and coming to nieces bday party on sun &I playing ball in the street with family.
Me: I let him know that I asked her, he understands and said it doesn't change things between us.. It really helped, but I'm ok, I asked her because it's what I want, and I'm ok with it now.
Mom: it's hard under any circumstance, I just worry about you being alone in NC
Me: I'm so happy here, no need to worry about me
Mom: so glad to here.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
