I've been lurking around the forums last few days looking for answers. Got some very valuable information.
Been married for almost 13 years; we have a family business and we have worked together almost every day since. Have one S9. We both belong to traditional families. Her parents and mine are overseas (different countries).
We have had nothing but arguments in the last few years, where they have gotten worse over time. Most of which I believe were my fault, as I always had a problem forgiving. She had mentioned D in the past but this time it was serious. She will be visiting her parents next month, she said she will be letting them know about her decision.
In the last few months I realized it had become harder to reason with her, when we had arguments, which I now know; it's because she has stopped trying. When I got the BD I had confronted her about OM, I thought she had been talking to. She admitted that she met him last year in a bar, and they were nothing but friends; I told her i didn't believe her. I broke all the DB rules that day and for another 2 days afterwards. Then I discovered this forum and my eyes opened. I have been DBing since then, focusing on GAL. Spending time with S9 and exercising. I have tried to detach but her actions are very upsetting. So I have been faking detachment. She stays out all night, neglects our s9, ignores the business, and has increased her interaction with OM. On the day of the BD she said that she doesn't want to work on the M as it has only dragged her and now it's time for her to find her happiness.
We are still in the same house living d2d and working together d2d. She has walked out of work for an 'appointment' and hasn't returned till next morning to get ready for work again. All classic signs of WW.
I have so much more info to give but S9 is looking for attention, I have to get back to him. My first question is if I somehow tell her the term WS ( not abbreviation) and ask her to look it up online in our next interaction. Will it hurt my efforts or may have a positive effect. I just want her to see the definition online and maybe buy some time, so she doesn't make her decision by next month.
