Have you seen those old Charlie Brown clips where whenever the adults talk there is only a trumpet sound? "Whaaaaah waaah whaaaahhhh!!!!" That is all I hear when your H starts talking.
O.M.G. I kid you not: this is EXACTLY what popped into my head when I read the paragraph of his "he saids"!!!!!! All I kept thinking was: STOP validating him, T! Stop with the 'I'm-sorry-you-feel-that-way' crap! Just hold up your hand and make the motion like someone talking and look at H and said: "Dude. I see you talking, but all I hear is wahhhwahhwahh." I mean SERIOUSLY. Tell him you've heard it all before! Like, just a couple weeks ago. It's time he sh!ts or gets off the freaking pot. Buh-bye. Bye, Felicia. Won't leave the lights on for ya.
Sheesh. Talk about grand pronouncements.
I have been giggling about this Charlie Brown horn all day. lol. T, even when I think back to my dark days after BD, I still have some sweet memories and good humor in the ways I coped. My BFF and I took several road trips, we would have Friday night dinners and our own crazy dance (wine) parties, and sometimes we just let ourselves laugh at what a chit-show my life was turning out to be (on the surface anyhow)! I never thought I would, but now I totally, cherish those moments and bursts of relief that I had in that time. I miss some of them actually. I hope you can create some of those for yourself now too--here on the boards and in your RL.
Whahhhh wah.
Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
