Well maybe you should have discussed the procedure with her before doing it.
I do regret I didn't discuss it more, and it's one of the real "time machine" moments in my life. But W knew it was happening - I told her and we talked about it, although I'd already made up my mind. She even drove me to the appointment.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18