But clearly, as you've already found in your sitch, they have not done the work on themselves they need to do and what they really need is a time out from relationships to gather themselves and get some much-needed help.
I'm not the original poster in this thread so it's not my sitch but thanks anyway - I just saw your post regarding THIS OM, and wanted to hear your opinion in general.
Oops sorry, I should have looked closer at who was posting